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Voice Lessons for Parents: What to Say, How to Say It, and When to Listen

  • Summit Hall, Mount Tamalpais School 100 Harvard Avenue Mill Valley, CA, 94941 United States (map)

This talk is open to MTS parents and the greater community.
The event is for adults only- childcare will not be provided.

Renowned speaker, parenting expert and New York Times bestselling author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Dr. Wendy Mogel offers an essential guide to the new art of talking to children, and shows how a change in voice can transform conversations and ease the relationship between parents and children. 

Dr. Mogel’s disarming candor, quick wit, and signature use of cutting-edge psychological research coupled with timeless wisdom, guides parents through the rough waters of child-rearing, adding a measure of joy and humor to their voyage. Drawing on insights from her thirty-five year career in clinical psychology, hilarious anecdotes (and sound advice) from school and camp counselors, and eye-opening conversations with middle and high school students, Dr. Mogel unravels the paradox of good- intentioned, devoted parenting gone astray. She explains how over-protection, over-scheduling, over-indulgence, and perfectionism undermine children’s intrinsic motivation, resilience, and pride in their achievements. Parents are freed to adopt a kinder, firmer, and ultimately more effective approach to the trenches of daily family life.

In Voice Lessons, Mogel elaborates on this novel clinical approach, revealing how each age and stage of a child’s life brings new opportunities to connect through language. Delving into sources as diverse as neuroscience, fairy tales, and anthropology, Mogel offers specific guidance for talking to children across the expanse of childhood and adolescence. She also explains the best ways to talk about your child to grandparents, partners, and exes, and to teachers, coaches, and caretakers. Throughout the book, Mogel addresses an obstacle that flummoxes even the most seasoned and confident parent: the distraction of digital devices, how they impact our connection with our families, and what we can do about it.

A graduate of Middlebury College, Wendy Mogel completed an internship and post-doctoral fellowship in Psychology in the Department of Psychiatry at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles. She currently serves as a research and policy advisor for Challenge Success—a program of the Stanford University School of Education, and serves on the scientific advisory board of Parents Magazine. She contributes articles to a variety of publications including Independent School Magazine, Parents Magazine, and Camping Magazine and is regularly featured as a guest expert by The TODAY Show, and in interviews by reporters from The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Newsweek, The Chicago Tribune, CNN, and NPR.

An interesting and little known fact—Dr. Mogel was born in a car under the 59th Street Bridge in Manhattan. She currently lives and practices in Los Angeles.

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