They DO NOT have to be good at it! This is hard one for most parents to grasp. As a Theatre Camp Director, I often hear from parents “She loves singing, but she’s not very good at it.” Of course she’s not. She’s 11 and she hasn’t had any lessons in singing. Also, you, the parent are (most likely) not a singing instructor and shouldn’t judge her talents before she’s even had a chance to develop them. I believe this idea applies to all hobbies, sports, arts, and schooling. It takes 10,000 hours to become and expert at something, let’s give your child more than a semester before we judge their level of skill in any one given area.
Most Importantly: Have Fun! Remember, you’re growing a human. And humans need light and water and food and occasionally, they need to have FUN! They need to know that the thing that is going to help them discover their truest self will be the joy that they are feeling when moving through this world! I always say to the parents of my campers, “When it stops being fun, take a break. Evaluate why the fun has been zapped out of it and if you can put it back in, then continue. If you can’t, then maybe it’s time to have fun with something else.”
Encourage Bravery: This one is easier said than done, I know. Your job as the parent is to protect this amazing child at any cost. And now your child wants to step outside the conventional norms. You worry that they may be teased or bullied and end up hurt. I know. I’ve seen it first hand. You have to trust that these marks on their fragile egos will be the things that prompt them into their best life. Whether your camper “fits in” or “stands out”, help them to understand that “standing up” is the self-defining moment that will inform their character. You know they can do this! They know they can do this! Now, it’s the moment of truth.